Thursday, March 20, 2014

We Said No

Take a look at this little princess!  Isn't she beautiful?

I've been thinking about her a lot lately.  Why?  Because we said no. 

In 2009, we picked Christian before we even settled on a country to adopt from. 

In 2013 we submitted our documents to adopt from China prior to having a child picked out.  When that is the case, at least in China, the family waits for THE SHARED LIST. The list comes out monthly-ish, and every family with a log in date without a match is on pins and needles, waiting for a call late into the night or the dreaded email indicating that a match has not been made that month. 

In April we were DTC--Documents to China, and received a LID--a Log in Date

In May, we waited anxiously for a call on the night that the shared list came out.  We got a call.  We ran to our computer to open up the documents.  We saw pictures of this little princess when she was a smidge younger, with the same little red cheeks and a beautiful smile. 

We read through her documents.  We wanted to say YES!  We didn't want to be one of those families with a match that we refused.  We had hours to make this decision, but we did have some concerns about our ability to meet her needs while working full time and having many other children. 

She is the first child that we had an international medical doctor review the file, just in case we were wrong and her needs could be met in our family. We really wanted to say yes but we wanted to verify some information and consider our ability to parent her. 

Ultimately, we said no... and saying no is really hard.  Saying no is even harder when I see that another family has not stepped forward, almost a year later. 

I want to see her find her family.  She really sounds like a lovely little girl!
-smart
-healthy
-developmentally on track
-beautiful

She lives with a foster family and currently has a $3,000 grant available through her agency. 

If you are open to the need of spina bifida, please PLEASE consider this little princess!  Her needs are manageable!

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Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Our Red Thread Session. We tried.


After reading about Red Thread Sessions a few months after I brought Christian home, I knew I wanted to schedule a session after this next adoption.  Before we even had our kids picked out, I contacted Melanie at Moments by Melanie to see if she was able to tentatively book a session after our adoption was completed.  Melanie was very responsive and got back to me right away each time we connected before and after arriving home.  

If you don't know about Red Thread Sessions, it's an amazing group of photographers that donate their time to a recently adoptive family. 

Poor Melanie didn't know what she was getting herself into...just throwing it out there. I don't think she realized that we have other kids too, making us close to a mega-size family. I spent the morning getting the kids ready but of course didn't have enough time to straighten my hair.  Not 1 child fell asleep on the 1 1/2 hour drive to the location--and I was worried just by that fact. We, or course, were running just a few minutes late.  

Once we arrived we dressed the little kids as best we could.  It was about 20 degrees and we had to change them quickly so we could run inside for a quick bathroom break and I had to wipe noses x4..which started the screaming.

We wandered around the building trying to find Melanie...although she spotted us long before we spotted her.  We found an an awesome room that would have contained all...but since we did not reserve it we were kicked out.  

The madness started.   The little girls took turns screaming when they weren't screaming in unison.  Repeatedly.  Christian kept giving funny smiles and looking sideways. At least 4 kids had a cold in my opinion.  Maddie was a rockstar.  Eric kept asking for more individual shots so he could pose.  

At one point Jim and I just sat there and giggled because the entire thing was just so silly and going so badly.  I think that's when we got our sole family shot...clearly just keeping it real around here since half of the participants aren't even looking forward and only 3 of us are smiling/giggling. If you scroll down you'll see what mean.  

I'm not sure if a successful photo shoot is in our near future...





















We regrouped, and continued on to our Panda Playdate.  Suddenly the kids were laughing, giggling, and having a ball.  Go figure.  Here are a couple of videos since the kids have been home for exactly 2 months.  Julia Mei is full of giggles and Jacob is walking independently.  WOW!





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