Thursday, March 20, 2014

We Said No

Take a look at this little princess!  Isn't she beautiful?

I've been thinking about her a lot lately.  Why?  Because we said no. 

In 2009, we picked Christian before we even settled on a country to adopt from. 

In 2013 we submitted our documents to adopt from China prior to having a child picked out.  When that is the case, at least in China, the family waits for THE SHARED LIST. The list comes out monthly-ish, and every family with a log in date without a match is on pins and needles, waiting for a call late into the night or the dreaded email indicating that a match has not been made that month. 

In April we were DTC--Documents to China, and received a LID--a Log in Date

In May, we waited anxiously for a call on the night that the shared list came out.  We got a call.  We ran to our computer to open up the documents.  We saw pictures of this little princess when she was a smidge younger, with the same little red cheeks and a beautiful smile. 

We read through her documents.  We wanted to say YES!  We didn't want to be one of those families with a match that we refused.  We had hours to make this decision, but we did have some concerns about our ability to meet her needs while working full time and having many other children. 

She is the first child that we had an international medical doctor review the file, just in case we were wrong and her needs could be met in our family. We really wanted to say yes but we wanted to verify some information and consider our ability to parent her. 

Ultimately, we said no... and saying no is really hard.  Saying no is even harder when I see that another family has not stepped forward, almost a year later. 

I want to see her find her family.  She really sounds like a lovely little girl!
-developmentally on track

She lives with a foster family and currently has a $3,000 grant available through her agency. 

If you are open to the need of spina bifida, please PLEASE consider this little princess!  Her needs are manageable!

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